How to become a better person

Updated : Sep 03, 2019 in Articles

How to become a better person


Once we’re over about 12 years old, We’re suddenly encouraged to be nice. We’re expected to make efforts in all kinds of areas, Chiefly around work, but the idea of
expending energy thinking about and then practicing the
art of niceness sounds bizarre, even eerie. That’s why we’ve drawn up a checklist of 10 virtues that we think matter more
than ever in the modern age. Resilience. This is the art of keeping going, even when things are looking dark; of accepting reversals as normal; of refusing to frighten others with one’s
own fears; and of remembering that human nature is, in the end, reassuringly tough. Empathy. The capacity to connect imaginatively
with the sufferings and unique experiences of another person. The courage to become someone else and look back at oneself with honesty. Patience. We lose our temper because we believe that things should be perfect. We’ve grown so good in some areas like putting men on the moon, we’re ever less able to deal with things that
still insist on going wrong: traffic, government, and other people. We should
grow calmer and more forgiving by getting more realistic about how
things actually tend to go. Sacrifice. We’re hard-wired to seek our
own advantage, but also have this miraculous ability, very occasionally, to forego our own satisfactions in the
name of someone or something else. We won’t ever
manage to raise a family love someone else or save
the planet don’t keep up with the art of
sacrifice. Politeness. Politeness has a bad name. We often
assume it’s about being fake, which is meant to be bad, as opposed to
really ourselves, which is and good. However, given what most of us are really like deep down, we should spare others to much exposure to our deeper selves. We need to learn manners, which aren’t evil.
They’re the necessary internal rules of civilization.
Politeness is very linked to tolerance; to a capacity to live alongside people whom one won’t necessarily agree with, but at the same time, won’t be able to
avoid. Humour. Seeing the funny sides of
situations and oneself doesn’t sound very serious, but its
integral to wisdom, because it’s a sign that one’s been able to put a benevolent finger on the gap between what we want to
happen and what life can actually provide. Like anger, humor springs from disappointment, but its
disappointment optimally channeled. It’s one of the best things we can do
with our sadness Self-awareness. To know oneself is to try not to blame others for one’s troubles and moods. To have a sense of what’s going on inside oneself and what actually belongs to the world. Forgiveness. Forgiveness means a long memory all the times when we wouldn’t have got through life without someone cutting us some slack. It’s recognizing that living with others is impossible without excusing errors. Hope. The way the world is now is only a pale
shadow of what it could one day be. We’re still only at the beginning of history.
As you get older, despair becomes far easier, almost reflex, whereas in adolescence it was still cool and adventurous. Pessimism isn’t necessarily deep; nor optimism shallow. Confidence. The greatest projects and
schemes die for new grander reason than that we don’t dare. Confidence isn’t arrogance, it’s based on constant awareness of how short life is, and how little we ultimately lose from
risking everything. Let’s try to keep these in mind and
practice them a little every day. Resilience Empathy Patience Sacrifice Politeness Humor Self-Awareness Forgiveness Hope Confidence

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